Relationships are a topic I thoroughly enjoy researching and discussing, specifically one between a husband and wife. It is, in fact, one of the most significant connections we will ever have, one that can impact our lives for better or worse.
What helps sustain a relationship is continuing to put as much effort into nourishing it as we did finding it. Blind dating, online dating, double dating - we put ourselves through every imaginable uncomfortable situation, and once we get married, it is almost as if it's another item crossed off our checklist. Married, check. Children, check. Career, check. Very often we have a romanticized idea in mind as to what our lives will be like after we get married, one that's often not based in reality. Inevitably, the honeymoon ends and life goes on. We get busy at work, spending time with coworkers, becoming close with our girlfriends discussing our relationship woes, and taking the kids out together. We end up spending more time apart and confiding in those people with whom we share our day.
We need to create time where we can come back together with our significant other to reconnect and share. This is a fundamental aspect of any relationship. We must put the time in. This connection has the potential to be totally satisfying and complete, helping us grow to levels of emotional intimacy that we are not yet aware exist.
Unfortunately, too often couples do not consistently invest in nurturing their love and when challenges arise, there isn't a strong base from which to work. That is why I think this idea of nurturing a relationship is probably one of the most important keys. It is the very foundation on which the outcome of future experiences and conflicts depend.
Therefore, I would like to share with you four keys that are important for nurturing relationships.
1. Consciously focus on the good in one another.
2. Cherish small moments of intimacy and laughter.
3. Be vulnerable with one another.
"Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future." - John F. Kennedy
There are no stable marriages. There may be happy ones, but not stable ones. Either we are growing forward or falling backwards. This is true in all areas of our life. There is no constant; there is only change and movement. This is "the law of life," which is why I believe nurturing relationships is so important. We owe it to ourselves and those we love not to settle for mediocrity in any way, and instead to nurture and allow our relationships to become the source of joy, support and love that they were intended to be.
Kabbalah on Love offers a simple yet profound message: Love is not something that is learned or acquired; it is an essence within, waiting to be revealed. Buried by layers of ego, fear, shame, doubt, low self-esteem, and other limitations, love can only be activated through sharing and serving unconditionally. Only then will the layers fall away and the essence of love reveal itself.
More than a decade after the runaway bestseller The Rules advised women on how to land "Mr. Right," it's time for a new set of rules with a more spiritual approach. This book describes relationships from a kabbalistic perspective and explains what makes them work (or not work); reveals that it is the woman who holds the power to determine the outcome; and identifies the differences that cause men and women to think and act differently.